Long lost father, arguments, family problems advice please?

Im so sorry your having to go through this. My best friend grew up without a father and he would show up every now and then, then disappear. He is the most narcissist person i've ever came across and had a real sense of entitlement, basically a real ******. This reminds me a lot of your dad. I don't know if they have a complex or feel guilty for not being there, but to be pushy & argumentative is not the way. Men in general have ego's, so that makes it difficult enough, but when your dealing with a man that's not trying to accept his wrong in the situation, that just makes it worst. I think you should tell it to him like it is, look you haven't been there all these years, now you want to act as though nothings happened or as if you've been here all along, NOOOO! that's something that have to built up too, its not automatic, so give me so room & space and you have to reach out and do more to see me as well. Just pray on it, if it becomes too much just step back off of it and take some time. If its meant to come together it will. Good luck!